The Rolling Stones got it right..."You can't always get what you want." Nowhere is this more true than in marriage. Two different people trying to become one in some ways yet remain individuals can be a trying task, but it does not have to be.
Compromise is at the same time the easiest and the most difficult thing in the world. It can be really, really hard to sit back and keep your mouth shut about something you don't like or are not interested in. A few examples...television/remote control, long and seemingly pointless stories about work, and hobbies/sports.
What, if anything, can be done about it? One thing that helps immensely...keep your mouth shut. Everything that pops into your head does not have to be vocalized. Sometimes it is just best to bite your tongue for the sake of harmony. Remember the old "If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all" saying? It's true. However, I do understand that sitting through one more episode of The View or Bridezillas may not be possible, so there are other options.
Find something else to do...remove yourself from the situation and go out for a walk, work in the garden, read a book. There are a million other things you can do. If you've already heard the story...just listen one more time.
A little compromise goes a long way and it will do wonders for your relationship. A little give and take is all it takes.
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